Horoscope Reading Needed

Not sure if my moons are aligned, if my suns are dislocated but whatever is going on up there… is affecting down here. I am sure of it.

I am in a place of semi- mental isolation I will call it.

I say mental isolation because it’s all in head. In actuality I am constantly surrounded by people. At work I deal with roughly 60 to 75 people a day not including my coworkers and when I’m home I am taking calls maybe from friends and family to maintain relationships or even business FaceTime calls.

I guess it’s just not the way I desire to be accompanied… 

However, I do know that this place which feels like seclusion to me is for the best. 

I know that if I had it my way in this moment it would be at the cost of all that I am working on achieving.

#distracted little lady

I have to stay focused on all of the projects I have my hand at right now because ultimately that is what I REALLY want. To accomplish these goals I have set for myself, to bring the ideas I have in my mind to life and I cannot do that with distractions.

I feel a shifting taking place… I’m not exactly sure what everything will look like on the other side of this but I am very optimistic. 

I have been feeling more so on my grown woman-ish: getting up in the morning even though my body is a little tired… to clean the house, and prepare for the day.

My daily routines have changed in this month of August. I am more intentional and particular about how I approach my day. I stay up late completing work when I am not super tired whereas I use to give into that lazy part of me that wanted to lay around and do something that probably wouldn’t add to anything I needed to accomplish.

I find myself standing firm in who I have grown into.. speaking up for the things I said I wouldn’t stand for and being honest with my emotions and present state. Both mental and physical.

I consciously dig deeper to find out why I feel that way and by doing so, it stops negative thoughts from creeping in trying to deceive me and pull me back to which I’ve grown from.

According to my general horoscope reading a Cancer like myself has been showing a lot of attention to others, and it suggested that I redirect that attention to self. It said to speak wealth and prosperity over myself and that as I release limiting beliefs I will find solutions to my past problems and continue to rise.

I am rising.

-Courtney B. 

Thank You COVID-19

I want to start this post off by saying that I’m not writing this to be insensitive of those that have been negatively impacted by this pandemic. Trust me, so have I. I just wanted to use this space to highlight some positivity within this uncertain time. I don’t want to focus on what I’ve lost. As I am returning back to the office that I’ve not been able to work in since March, I want to reflect on what I’ve gained, what I’ve been able to focus more energy into, and the experiences that I’ve been grateful to have over the last five months.

  1. Patience ~ I have been humbled. God always comes through though, but it may not be on “my time.” I’ve learned to trust the process.
  2. Lived in the present ~ I’m always so focused on my future. My next goal. My next project. Being forced to stay in the house with minimum funds made it so that I had no choice but to slow down and live in the now. Everything seemed paused which made me enjoy my limited company even more. I was also able to soak in all that I’ve accomplished and where I am now. 
  3. Spent more time with my boyfriend ~ We have been nailing this looooonnnngg distance for the last year but I must say I have loved staying with him for the last four months. It gave us a time to learn each other’s pet peeves, cleaning habits, daily routines, etc. before we actually live together and I loved every minute of it
  4. Was able to be included in family moments and birthdays that I haven’t been able to be around for in years ~ I have not been in my hometown this long since I was in high school. Because of school, I have missed many birthdays, but not this year. I have been able to be with my family, on my sister’s, one of my brother’s, my mom’s, my Papa’s, and my future sister in law’s birthday. I also was able to participate in family game nights, family dinners, and family cookouts. 
  5. Physical health ~ Although consistency slacks as I get busier, this has remained as a focus of mine from what I put into my body to how I take care of my body. There’s still room for improvement here. 
  6. Discovered my love for painting ~ I share in my last post, “Get Creative!” some of my latest painting projects. I plan to focus on that more while I have another week until classes restart.
  7. Poured more energy into passion projects ~ During the last five months, I have (although not alone): 
    1. Followed my mom’s lead on publishing her blog that she has been wanting to do for a while. I’m so happy that she included me and my friends on this project. Its hard to put into words what this blog means to me (but maybe I’ll write about it later),
    2. Completed 1 season of a podcast, Party of Four, with three other friends. We are currently working on re-branding for Season 2. New content, new structure, new everything and I’m really excited for that. 
    3. Just released Courtney and I’s very first episode of our YouTube Channel, The Real Ali and Court. Check it out and if you like what you see, make sure you subscribe! 

Here are some of my favorite moments:

Striving for a positive thoughts only mindset! Although, it may be difficult. I challenge you to put at least one positive thing that came from this pandemic in the comments. READY. SET. GO.  💞

LIVE.LAUGH.LOVE yourself first. Until next time. Mwauh 💋 -Alex

Random Thoughts

Words that are fun to say :


Shish kabob



There was a point in my life where I did not use profanity what-so-ever. Possibly a 1 to 2 year span. Besides the fact that I was young and should not have been using such language anyway, my disengagement from use was built on an idea I had come up with. I had decided that people only used cuss-words for lack of energy and knowledge they possessed of “better” terms. Not only were they being lazy but they were ignorant to extensive vocabulary. It sounds pretty harsh and it is, but is it not true?

As someone who loves language, dialects and accents = linguistics…I have found that I find speech most intriguing when words I rarely hear are used or when the order of words are switched up in a way that is new to my ear.

I was recently asked can a villain be a villain and a hero at the same time? I think the answer is yes. A Hero has to be a villain to someone who doesn’t believe in what they stand for, and hero to those who do. So we all at some point are villains to someone, right?

My personal question then is can a villain be a villain to another villain? Hmmmmmmm.

In the past two years, I just realized that my mom was an actual person. I know that sounds weird but seriously. In the sense that she too actually had feelings, a past, trauma, even good memories and stories that all attributed to who she is. I believe this is because as a child, I only viewed her as a provider and recently as our relationship grows I know now she is so much more. I wonder who else has experienced this.

Rock An Easy Cook-out Even If It Rains

Has it been raining on your side of town lately? In my city, I get one day of pure sun-shine and the next, rain instead of sun-shine. One of the days mother earth decided to moisturize herself, was a day I had planned on cooking out on the grill, this meant of course that I could not and had to find an alternative meal… or did I?

How’s that saying go? Where there is a will,  there is a way. Let’s just say I got my cook-out meal, just in a different way.

Below is the recipe I used to achieve my indoor cook-out dinner

If  you are someone who does not eat chicken you can play with recipe and replace it with salmon or your desired meat replacement.

Recipe directions below

Main course Ingredients:

  • 1 head broccoli – shaved
  • 1 lemon – juiced
  • 1 pinch chili flakes
  • 1 dozen chicken drumsticks
  • 1 bunch scallions – root ends trimmed
  • 2 tbsp olive oil + 1 tsp
  • 1 tsp honey
  • kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper

Ingredients needed for the Southwestern rub:

  • 2 tbsp sweet, smoked paprika
  • 1 tbsp ground cumin
  • 1 tbsp garlic powder
  • 1 tbsp kosher salt
  • 3 tbsp chili powder
  • 1/2 tsp cayenne
  • 1 tbsp ground coriander
  • 1 tbsp onion powder
  • 1 tbsp ground black pepper
  1. Preheat the oven to 400 degrees
  2. Line a rimmed baking sheet with aluminum foil
  3. On the left side of the baking sheet, add the chicken drumsticks
  4. Drizzle with a tbsp of olive oil, then season with the Southwestern Spice Rub
  5. Next to the chicken, add the scallions and jalapenos, then drizzle with a tsp of olive oil and season with salt and pepper
  6. Bake for 30 minutes
  7. Finely chop the scallions and jalapenos, then add them to a large bowl
  8. Add the lemon juice, honey, and chili flakes, and mix
  9. Season with salt and pepper as needed
  10. Add the shaved broccoli and toss until coated all over
  11. Remove the chicken and the broccoli to serving platters

And there you have it!

A quick cookout, accomplished by not going outside.

A meal is never complete without something a little sweet. To end the night with a bang, you can make home-made popsicles… Adult Version!

All you will need for this is:

  1. A freezer

2. Juice

3. Your preferred spirit

4. Popsicle molder


First pour one shot of your spirits into the mold, two if you want them potent, and then fill the rest of the mold with your juice.

After that allow the mold to sit in the freezer for about an hour and a half ( the time it will take to make dinner) and then enjoy.

Side note: For children you remove the spirit ingredient!

I hope you enjoy this meal, and leave a comment below sharing your thoughts!

Grilled veggie pockets

(serves 6-8)

4 potatoes peeled and cubed

12 oz pack of frozen mixed vegetables

1 packet Lipton onion soup mix

Butter (you don’t need much)

The idea is to mix it all together, divide even portions onto foil squares large enough to fold and enclose vegetables, put the packets on the grill until veggies are tender. Maybe 15-20 minutes. The size of your potatoes will determine the cook time. I cooked the potatoes for 7-8 minutes, then added the veggies and cooked for another 8-10 minutes but I like my potatoes soft and my veggies a lil on the crunchy side.

Of course you can add or substitute ingredients. If you do please share your variation.


Self Care, Self Check

As crazy and uncomfortable as “life” has been lately, the sun continues to shine, the birds continue to sing, the flowers continue to bloom, rain continues to fall and the world continues to turn.

The seemingly growing ever present concern for the safety and livelihood of my family has been riding shotgun while the responsibility to take better care of my whole self took a back seat. I am feeling the imbalance and it’s time to make the necessary self care adjustments to get back in-balance..

Mentally, I am always on the go. Overactive may be an understatement. There is always a question to answer, a plan to construct, a code to decipher, a problem to solve, and a dream to dream that requires more in depth planning. One way that I calm or gather my thoughts is by journaling, reading, and resting. I have a few books that I’m reading; now would be a great time to finish one. I also registered for a class that I’ve wanted to take but hadn’t made time to.

Socially, I’m forced to set new boundaries to minimize exposure to COVID19 and to maintain my sanity. People are showing true colors, masks are being removed, sheep clothing coming off and my heart and mind are too valuable to entertain fictitious interest, concern or emotions. I am craving some adult interaction, after months and months of quarentining and minimizing outings but I won’t complain because that may be a blessing in disguise. I enjoying writing and receiving letters in the mail so I have found myself sending letters, cards and care packages more, to stay connected. I have met and had conversations with people in my neighborhood since we’ve been home and outside of our houses more. Some of us have formed a support system to help each other in times of need. We share stories, concerns, ideas, supplies, time and fresh produce. With all that’s going on, that has been a nice reality to embrace.

Showing love to support black businesses is another social self care component. Mind Your Money Mondays have been uplifting to our tribe and empowering. I hope everyone is paying it forward. I wear my Support Black Colleges apparel with pride, I nourish my skin and lips with Urban Elite Beauty’s 24K serum and lip balm. I moisturize with Base Butter at night and purify my sacred space with smudge bundles from Gypsy Yoga Mama and meditate with energy infused Melanated Empath candles burning nearby. I hope everyone is paying it forward.

Spatially, I spend time in my garden planting, cultivating, propogating, pruning and harvesting. Inside of the house, I’ve been rearranging, sorting and organizing so I may be more productive and efficient.

Emotionally, being creative and sharing with the intentionality of improving someone’s day, outlook, quality of life, self-image or over all well being feeds my soul. I have been creating Ancestrally Waisted waist beads for all of those reasons. The energetically charged functional pieces of art allow me to be generous with my abilities to help and heal.

Spiritually, I have continued to pray and meditate, strengthening my relationship with myself and the Most High. This month I will focus on journaling more and yoga at least 3 times a week.

Physically, I have been making more of an effort than I ever have before to strengthen and tone this body that may look amazing for its age, but is not getting any younger. Nor is commiting to an excercise routine getting any easier.

Two months ago I began to workout regularly in the comfort of my home. I do not workout. I repeat, I do not work out but I wanted my children and I to stay active and to do more things together as a family. Well that didn’t happen like I hoped it would. May and June I managed to work out 4 days a week for 2-3 weeks (each month). Last month I didn’t work out at all. I do yoga sometimes, in spurts, but lately I haven’t. I’ve been feeling sluggish, bloated, and have been having frequent headaches and some body aches (back, shoulder, hips and knees).

Nutritionally, I’m going to eat cleaner, juice more, eat more raw meals (uncooked fruit, vegetables, sprouts) and increase my daily water intake. I am planning to cleanse my digestive system (along with my thoughts, my words) at the beginning of September. In preparation, I am starting, in August, to gradually eliminate toxins, undesirable and unhealthy elements from my life. I don’t want to send my body into shock by suddenly altering how I feed it.

As I analyze my eating habits I can’t overlook the fact that I do not drink enough water. I have to correct that and I may need your help. I like to infuse my water with cucumbers, lemon and mint. I would love to see what you add to your water (if anything).

I know I am not the only one who doesn’t drink enough water. Wouldn’t it be dope to encourage one another to hydrate adequately. I’m anxious to see what will change and/or improve if I fill up on an essential life force. Please join us August 3-31, for a 28 day water challenge.

How many ounces of water is the “right” amount to drink each day?

Your body weight divided by 2;

A 140 pound person would need to drink 70 ounces of water. This is only an approximate calculation. Keep in mind, if you’re physically active, sweating a lot, you may need to drink more water. This is how I am determining my daily intake. I have heard 8 glasses of water a day as a baseline and I have also seen a recommendation of 91 oz for women, 125 oz for men. Decide what is right for you and set your challenge goal.

Why is water important?

Maintain body temperatureTransports nutrients
Metabolize body fatAids in digestion (saliva)
Lubricates and cushions organsFacilitates cellular function
Removal of toxins/Transports wasteImproves skin and scalp function
Boosts immunityMaintain healthy nerve endings
Feeds hair rootHydrates hair follicles

Water Challenge

I will post pictures on my personal IG @TruthIzBeauty to remind and motivate others to drink “enough” water. It would be nice if those who participate post encouraging pictures or infusion suggestions with #TH2O and tag @thumpinthought and @truthizbeauty or send the pics, to ThumpInThought@gmail.com (#TH20 in subject).

Send us a message so we can see whose with us. Let’s discover what we can drink into existance!

Thump out!



Get Creative!

“The desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings of the human soul.” -Dieter F. Uchtdorf 

This is true, at least for me. 

I mentioned before that I have really been tuning into my creative side since I’ve been stuck in the house. I wanted to share with you some things that I have been working on. I also want to preface this post by saying that I completed these projects for enjoyment and expression, not for perfection.

Here they are: 

Customized Birthday Wine glasses 

In the beginning stages of being quarantined, I gave personal painting as birthday gifts, but I felt like it was time to level-up. For my mom’s (Thump), Courtney’s, and my boyfriend’s sister, Nakee’s. birthdays, I gave them glitter wine glasses with their name and their age on them. I had some issues with the glitter, but they came out nice and it’s the thought that counts, right? 

Flower Pots for my Ma “C” (grandmother) 

After I showed her my paintings, she gave me a few glass jars/pots that she wanted painted. She said “I don’t want flowers painted on them or for them to resemble anything I can buy from the store. I want something different”…so I delivered. She appreciated them. 

Corn Hole Board for Isaiah (my boyfriend) 

He saw the inspo on Facebook and asked if I could do it. If you know me, then you know, I  never back down from a challenge. Don’t even ask how long this took me to complete. Also, if you are wondering…no. We did not play it following the rules on the board every time. It is a nice design though.

The Real Ali and Court Teaser 

I have been learning how to use iMovie and if you have not seen this video already, then SURPRISE: Courtney and I have started a YouTube channel. Click the link to learn a little more about what our videos are going to be about, and while you’re there please subscribe because our first video airs on August 12th. We can’t wait to share what we’ve been working on with you. 

If you have any questions about how I created any of these projects, or what materials I used, let me know. I’m not a professional or anything, but I may be able to help! If you would like to give me new project inspo, share in the comments any projects that you’ve been working on. 

As we are continuing to showcase black-owned businesses, I would like to share how my high school and college friend gets creative.

Corrine 🌸 Rinne The Writer 🖋

“Why did you begin writing poems?”

“I’ve always been better at expressing myself through writing versus speaking. I got to a point where I had so much built up and the easiest way to release was by writing. For the longest time, I would just think of poetry in my head but wouldn’t physically write it. I didn’t start writing consistently until I took a poetry class in college and fell in love. I fell in love with watching my classmates react to my poetry and that alone made me want to write more. I love to make people feel.”

Her favorite poem that she’s written is:

As the moon shines down,
She speaks to me softly.
Reminding me that we
are one in the same. Ever
changing and shifting but


each part remains. Every
piece of me is present even
when unseen. I speak back
to her —

“thank you, for
teaching me how to come
back to myself even when
I’m evolving.”

She’s been writing for a while, but one of her most recent projects has been creating these “GENERATIONAL CURSE BREAKER” t-shirts, and I of course had to support! Not only did I think this message was dope, but she donated all of the revenue!

“What made you create these t-shirts? Why did you choose to release them?”

“I’ve always considered myself a generational curse breaker, especially being the first in my family to go to college. One day, I just felt like it would make a great t-shirt. I love simple clothing and this message is simple but powerful. So I created it. I had no intention in releasing it any time soon but then the tragic killing of George Floyd happened. Just like the rest of my people, I was just fed up with not doing anything. And then shortly after, I learned about Breonna Taylor. So I decided to release my shirt a little bit sooner. One, to provide people with a great shirt but also to give back and help support the movement. I definitely plan to release more t-shirts in the future.”

Her IG handles are:

@_corriiii (personal account)

@rinnesworld_ofwords (poetry account)

@authenti.cityshop (business account)

Show this creative some love!

Until next time. Mwauh 💋 -Alex


Since the ladies of Thump in Thought have been experimenting with different hair care products, We decided to list some black-owned hair care suppliers. You may notice a few of them have already been reviewed and some will be reviewed in the future.

  • Design Essentials
  • Pattern Beauty
  • Taliah Waajid
  • Mielle Organics
  • 26 King Wavy… for the fellas
  • Moisture Love
  • Miche
  • Camille Rose Naturals
  • Canvas Beauty Brand
  • CoCo Tique
  • Bask and Bloom Essentials
  • TPH by Taraji
  • Alikay Naturals
  • Obia Natural Haircare
  • Uncle Funky’s Daughter
  • Oyin Handmade
  • Amazing Botanicals
  • My Honeychild
  • KInky Curly
  • BeeMine Products
  • TGIN (Thank God I’m Natural)
  • Curls
  • Girls with Curls
  • Natural Joy Skincare
  • Adwoa Beauty
  • Alodia
  • Antidote Street
  • Avalah Beauty

Please share your favorite, go-to brands and/or products with us and if you try any from the businesses listed let us know!

Hair Journal: Searching for Simplicity

Over the last 8 weeks, I have been experimenting with different hair product and product lines. I am one who prefers not to put things in or on her hair, if I can help it. I have noticed that this miniature afro of mine is not very happy if I don’t. It cries, “Feed Me”, “I’m drying out over here”, “Just don’t touch me”. Finding reliable, go to products can be a challenge. More often than not, I seem to pick and choose one or two products but, finding an entire line I can trust…I’m determined. (Due to my dedication to supporting black owned businesses, I will only be reviewing those product lines that are).

Here we go:

May 21 – Pattern by Tracee Ellis Ross

I ordered the sample kit. The shampoo and conditioner had a light and subtle scent, cucumbers came to mind. I washed my hair twice and I liked the shampoo because it cleansed my hair but did not strip it so much.

I followed with the heavy conditioner, which was not super thick or heavy and it spread really well throughout my hair. That’s important because you want the product evenly distributed over your entire head. I only needed four quarter size amounts to cover all of my hair. I combed through with a wide tooth comb, added a dime size more conditioner, and covered with a plastic bag for an hour.

After rinsing the conditioner out, my hair was not fuzzy (sometimes my hair has a fuzzy, wispy, cottony outer layer after washing and/or conditioning, depending on what I use).

I parted my hair and applied leave-in, It was a little thicker than the heavy conditioner. I used about the same amount of leave-in as the heavy conditioner.

It wasn’t visibly greasy but the product it self was slightly visible in areas.

After 2 hours, I picked out my hair. It was spongy, juicy, moist, well hydrated full afro, usually not as hydrated without using some curl cream or moisturizer.

+ Not greasy or heavy

+ Easy to use and distribute

– Doesn’t define my curls

Day 2

In the morning, my hair was coated but not greasy to touch. I then added the serum, curls were hydrated and stretched. My hair was very soft feeling for 2 days before I added water to the leave-in conditioner in a spray bottle and used that to two strand twist my hair.

…and the next day

May 30

I used Taliah Waajids’ Curls, Waves, and Naturals: Silk Milk Shampoo, Repair and Restore Masque, The Great Detangler Leave-In conditioner, and Curly Curl Cream.

The shampoo was very nice but, the conditioner didn’t feel that great on. Afterwards, the conditioner left my hair really soft.

The masque didn’t feel that good while I was applying, but my curls were well defined. I used a quarter sized amount of curly curl cream 6 times. I had tight curl definition with the curly curl cream, but my hair wasn’t as soft once dried. My hair dried clear after a hour of air drying.

The next morning, my hair was dry and drawn up. My curls were defined but very tight. I added the leave-in and souffle. It was hydrating and not greasy, but it wasn’t very defining, and I could feel a slight coating on my hair.

Stay tuned to see what brand and products I use next and to see how my hair responds. The journey continues…

Thump out!

Do you Know? No.

“Know your Rights” they say! I have heard this statement far too often, and finally I began to actually think on it instead of dismiss the idea.

I asked myself, “Do I know my rights?” “How many do I have?” “Where can I find this information?” “Do my rights change?” “…. I think they are the amendments, but then what are the Bill of Rights and how are they different from the Constitution?”

I … at 23, did not know my rights, so I began to wonder if my counter parts knew theirs and they didn’t. This fact inspired me to do my research, not just for myself but for my brothers and sisters. This information is needed more than ever and can not only save our lives but possibly some jail time.

If not us, then who? Me, I got you.

So to not take away from the purpose of this post, I am going to jump straight into it.

This is the MEAT. The Need To Know.

Your rights belong to you, not to the government, so essentially the amendments are to protect you from the government.

1st Amendment: Means that congress cannot establish an official state religion therefore we can exercise any belief we choose. It legally gives us our freedom of speech, freedom of press (the freedom to report news without being controlled by the government), the freedom to assembly (gather in groups for a common purpose) and the freedom to protest government actions that we do not agree with.

2nd Amendment: Gives citizens the right to keep and bear fire arms for the protection of our persons, property and individual liberty.

There are more specific laws that vary between each state. If you carry, KNOW YOUR SPECIFIC STATE LAWS.

3rd Amendment: Protects the right to not have the government force us to house soldiers in our home against our will during “peace time”. Our 3rd amendment only allows them to do so in times of war. This might be the least litigated law, however I didn’t want to skip over it.


4th Amendment: protects citizens from unreasonable search and seizure. The government may not conduct any searches without a warrant, and such warrants must be issued by a judge and based on probable cause.

If you are pulled over and asked to be searched, it is YOUR RIGHT to respond “I do not consent to searches.” You cannot be penalized, I repeat you cannot be penalized for not consenting. It is YOUR RIGHT! If you say no, and they do so anyway, they (the police) must prove in court that they had probable cause (reason) and you and your attorney can fight against that claim.

Do not say aloud “fine go ahead and search me” but follow their instructions. By saying “fine go ahead and search me” and leaving it at that, you then legally have given permission.

It is best to say “I do not consent to searches” as a full statement because they (the police) may try to trip you up and ask “Do you mind if I search your car?” by responding “no” leaves room for misinterpretation.

No you don’t mind? Or No you don’t consent?

Say you forget this wording, and or get nervous and just respond “no” and they ask you to get out of the car so they can search you and it… You can withdraw consent at any time. It is never too late to say “I do not consent to searches” Again if they do continue, deal with it in court.

If you are a passenger in the car of someone who gets pulled over, and the driver consents to a search (which they shouldn’t) you can speak for yourself and say “ I do not consent to searches”. Never leave your personal bags in the car once you exit. Ladies take your purse with you, Men take your bookbag/ fanny pack with you. If he or she tries to stop you , say that the property is yours and you do not consent to be searched.

After doing my research, it was advised to never give consent to be searched, whether there is something to be found or not simply because it is YOUR RIGHT. We should never waive our rights, and the truth of the matter is…a search is done to incriminate you, not to help you be free.

This next statement is your 5th Amendment and 6th Amendment included in one.

“I am not answering any questions and I want to speak to an attorney.”

5th Amendment: provides that citizens not be subject to criminal prosecution and punishment without due process (fair treatment). Citizens may not be tried on the same set of facts twice, and are protected from self-incrimination (the right to remain silent). The amendment also establishes the power of eminent domain, ensuring that private property is not seized for public use without just compensation.

The right to remain silent.

6th Amendment: assures the right to a speedy trial by a jury of one’s peers, to be informed of the crimes with which they are charged, and to confront the witnesses brought by the government. The amendment also provides the accused the right to compel testimony from witnesses, and to legal representation.

The right to have a lawyer present.

Whenever you are asked “Do you know the reason you are being pulled over?” ALWAYS SAY NO. Never incriminate yourself. Legally all questioning is supposed to cease, however they may continue.

You can always exercise your right to be silent because if not you can dig yourself into a deeper hole. EXAMPLE: Getting caught with weed is a misdemeanor, but saying something as small as “I was just taking it to a friend, he or she left it in my car” now turns your charge into a felony because you are now found in possession with intent to distribute. You never tell the police that you have smoked marijuana, taken any prescription medication, drank any alcohol or used any other kind of drug any time in your life. It is not their business. They are not your therapist. It can and may be written in the police report in a manner that criminalizes you.

Exercise your right to remain silent.

Tell the truth, that you have nothing to say and want an attorney present. That is the truth.

Even if you have nothing to hide.

The last statement I’m going to cover for this post falls under our 4th Amendment.

“I do not agree to stay here with you for any reason. Are you detaining me or am I free to leave? . A police detention is a seizure of the person. If it is unreasonable, it violates the seized person’s Fourth Amendment rights. If it violates the Fourth Amendment, it is unlawful.

Remember YOUR 4th Amendment protects you from unreasonable search and seizure. The government may not conduct any searches without a warrant, and such warrants must be issued by a judge and based on probable cause

Do not voluntarily offer to stay around with the police for any reason. Not for them to get dogs to search, not for them to ask more questions, for no reason at all.

Unless you are being detained you don’t have to give an ID.

Always assert your rights. Do not waive your rights .

All of the statements suggested for use when interacting with police is supported by our constitutional rights. However use YOUR discernment in any situation.

Some answers to the questions I asked myself before doing research:

There are 27 amendments of the United States Constitution .

The US Constitution was written in 1787 and ratified (approved) in 1788.

On December 15, 1791 the Bill of Rights was also ratified with 10 amendments.

The first two amendments in the 12 that Congress proposed to the states were rejected: The first was concerning apportioning representation in the House of Representatives; the second prevented members of Congress from voting to change their pay until the next session of Congress. The original “Second Amendment” though rejected at first was finally added to the Constitution as the 27th Amendment, more than 200 years later. Originally proposed Sept.25th, 1789. Ratified May.7, 1992.

Study this information, be in the know. If you are interested in me going over the rest of our rights leave a comment!

Love yours, Courtney B.





Three more black owned businesses to show support…

I tried Calabash Tea for the first time two weeks ago and I was not disappointed. I am a self proclaimed herbal tea connoisseur and Simply Irresistible, Fat Black Pussy Cat, and All Night Long were definitely my cup of tea,

I personally use and love the versatility of the Mented lipstick neutral colors. I discovered them almost two years ago because I was in need of something subtle and natural looking. I have not bought any other lipstick since…well I did purchase 4 different colors (Nude LA LA, Dope Taupe, Brown Bear, and Mented #5).

Urban Elite Beauty came across my radar by happenstance but I decided to try their products to improve the condition of my aging skin. I’ll let you know what the results are in a few weeks.

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Mented Cosmetics

KJ Miller and Amanda E. Johnson created Mented Cosmetics because they believe every woman should be able to find herself in the world of beauty, no matter her skin tone. From their original nude lipsticks to eyeshadow palettes to blushes, each of their makeup products is perfectly pigMented to match your skin tones. They want all women, from light to tan to dark skin tones, to feel like they have makeup that actually works for their complexions, so they’ve created the shades to help accomplish that.


Urban Elite Beauty

Urban Elite Beauty, LLC was founded by David Benton in 2019 and started out as a holistic online beauty supply store. We started out selling hair , extensions, clippers, beard oils etc. January, 2020 I decided to narrow my niche for more of an exclusive product! I stumble upon an idea while watching Benjamin Button on Netflix!  I said,” what if I can come up with a product that will keep people young for a very long time” I did research and came up with the perfect product, an anti-aging serum that is now called the 24K Miracle Moisture Serum. It is a serum that fights our daily skin problems, especially as we age, such as dark spots, blemishes, acne, wrinkles, fine lines and more. Using 3 drops in the morning for about 90 seconds and 3 drops in the evening before bed will do miracles to your skin!  The 24K Miracle Moisture Luxury Skincare Collection consists of a serum, eye collagen mask, and lip balm, by the way is no ordinary lip balm. It will give you a hint of color that goes naturally with your skin tone. We have helped countless people with their skin issues and look forward to the countless people we are going to help. Please check out a few of our customers who consistently used our products and achieved massive results! For ordering information you can put link  https://bit.ly/3eTdJDV in your browser or go to www.urbanelitebeauty.com