Self Care, Self Check

As crazy and uncomfortable as “life” has been lately, the sun continues to shine, the birds continue to sing, the flowers continue to bloom, rain continues to fall and the world continues to turn.

The seemingly growing ever present concern for the safety and livelihood of my family has been riding shotgun while the responsibility to take better care of my whole self took a back seat. I am feeling the imbalance and it’s time to make the necessary self care adjustments to get back in-balance..

Mentally, I am always on the go. Overactive may be an understatement. There is always a question to answer, a plan to construct, a code to decipher, a problem to solve, and a dream to dream that requires more in depth planning. One way that I calm or gather my thoughts is by journaling, reading, and resting. I have a few books that I’m reading; now would be a great time to finish one. I also registered for a class that I’ve wanted to take but hadn’t made time to.

Socially, I’m forced to set new boundaries to minimize exposure to COVID19 and to maintain my sanity. People are showing true colors, masks are being removed, sheep clothing coming off and my heart and mind are too valuable to entertain fictitious interest, concern or emotions. I am craving some adult interaction, after months and months of quarentining and minimizing outings but I won’t complain because that may be a blessing in disguise. I enjoying writing and receiving letters in the mail so I have found myself sending letters, cards and care packages more, to stay connected. I have met and had conversations with people in my neighborhood since we’ve been home and outside of our houses more. Some of us have formed a support system to help each other in times of need. We share stories, concerns, ideas, supplies, time and fresh produce. With all that’s going on, that has been a nice reality to embrace.

Showing love to support black businesses is another social self care component. Mind Your Money Mondays have been uplifting to our tribe and empowering. I hope everyone is paying it forward. I wear my Support Black Colleges apparel with pride, I nourish my skin and lips with Urban Elite Beauty’s 24K serum and lip balm. I moisturize with Base Butter at night and purify my sacred space with smudge bundles from Gypsy Yoga Mama and meditate with energy infused Melanated Empath candles burning nearby. I hope everyone is paying it forward.

Spatially, I spend time in my garden planting, cultivating, propogating, pruning and harvesting. Inside of the house, I’ve been rearranging, sorting and organizing so I may be more productive and efficient.

Emotionally, being creative and sharing with the intentionality of improving someone’s day, outlook, quality of life, self-image or over all well being feeds my soul. I have been creating Ancestrally Waisted waist beads for all of those reasons. The energetically charged functional pieces of art allow me to be generous with my abilities to help and heal.

Spiritually, I have continued to pray and meditate, strengthening my relationship with myself and the Most High. This month I will focus on journaling more and yoga at least 3 times a week.

Physically, I have been making more of an effort than I ever have before to strengthen and tone this body that may look amazing for its age, but is not getting any younger. Nor is commiting to an excercise routine getting any easier.

Two months ago I began to workout regularly in the comfort of my home. I do not workout. I repeat, I do not work out but I wanted my children and I to stay active and to do more things together as a family. Well that didn’t happen like I hoped it would. May and June I managed to work out 4 days a week for 2-3 weeks (each month). Last month I didn’t work out at all. I do yoga sometimes, in spurts, but lately I haven’t. I’ve been feeling sluggish, bloated, and have been having frequent headaches and some body aches (back, shoulder, hips and knees).

Nutritionally, I’m going to eat cleaner, juice more, eat more raw meals (uncooked fruit, vegetables, sprouts) and increase my daily water intake. I am planning to cleanse my digestive system (along with my thoughts, my words) at the beginning of September. In preparation, I am starting, in August, to gradually eliminate toxins, undesirable and unhealthy elements from my life. I don’t want to send my body into shock by suddenly altering how I feed it.

As I analyze my eating habits I can’t overlook the fact that I do not drink enough water. I have to correct that and I may need your help. I like to infuse my water with cucumbers, lemon and mint. I would love to see what you add to your water (if anything).

I know I am not the only one who doesn’t drink enough water. Wouldn’t it be dope to encourage one another to hydrate adequately. I’m anxious to see what will change and/or improve if I fill up on an essential life force. Please join us August 3-31, for a 28 day water challenge.

How many ounces of water is the “right” amount to drink each day?

Your body weight divided by 2;

A 140 pound person would need to drink 70 ounces of water. This is only an approximate calculation. Keep in mind, if you’re physically active, sweating a lot, you may need to drink more water. This is how I am determining my daily intake. I have heard 8 glasses of water a day as a baseline and I have also seen a recommendation of 91 oz for women, 125 oz for men. Decide what is right for you and set your challenge goal.

Why is water important?

Maintain body temperatureTransports nutrients
Metabolize body fatAids in digestion (saliva)
Lubricates and cushions organsFacilitates cellular function
Removal of toxins/Transports wasteImproves skin and scalp function
Boosts immunityMaintain healthy nerve endings
Feeds hair rootHydrates hair follicles

Water Challenge

I will post pictures on my personal IG @TruthIzBeauty to remind and motivate others to drink “enough” water. It would be nice if those who participate post encouraging pictures or infusion suggestions with #TH2O and tag @thumpinthought and @truthizbeauty or send the pics, to (#TH20 in subject).

Send us a message so we can see whose with us. Let’s discover what we can drink into existance!

Thump out!



Homemade Hair Aides

Now that I am building a new hairelationship, I am finding myself experimenting more and more. The trial and error process can be fun and exciting, but it may also be disappointing and overwhelming. Wearing Sisterlocks meant that I only needed shampoos and conditioning agents, nothing else. My conditioners were herbal rinses that sometimes included 4-10 drops of essential oils. I rarely used cream conditioners and I never used hot oils treatments. I would, however, combine oils to put on my scalp and hair prior to washing it (the night before or at least 4 hours before). My new hair goals are to clean, nourish, condition, moisturize and only apply products 1-2 times a week. I have decided to document hair regimens and share in hopes that I will assist others in their natural hair journey.


Shampooed with Love and Happiness Coconut and Jasmine followed by Carols Daughter Black Vanilla shampoo. (I generally shampoo my hair at least twice)

Applied homemade conditioner – one overly ripe avocado, 1.5 tablespoon mayonnaise (I’ll use 2 next time), 1.5 tbsp honey (use 1 next time and add 1-2 tbsp oil next time)

*I did not have any disposable shower caps so I wrapped with cling wrap and covered with grocery bag for 10 hours

Rinsed out, no shampoo, followed by rice water (sprayed on)

The avocado turns a brown color, don’t be alarmed.

Rice water was made by soaking rice in water for over a 22 hour period, sparayed on, sealed with cling wrap for 1.5 hours

Rinsed hair and sprayed herbal leave in rinse (herbs – nettle, sage, coltsfoot, horsetail; oils – olive oil, sunflower oil, coconut oil, glycerine, roman chamomile (e.o.), lavender (e.o.) and lemon(e.o.))


Sprayed the herbal spray leave in rinse

Made cream based moisturizer/curl definer – shea butter (a little less than ½ cup), glycerin (1 tsp, use more next time), my mixture of coconut oil, sunflower oil, olive oil, dried chamomile and lavender, oils of lavender, lemon, rosemary, (I also added 1 drop of jasmine, 4-5 bergamot, lemon grass 2-3; I’ll add tea tree, more lavender and rosemary next time), and fresh aloe from plant.


Sprayed herbal conditioner and then applied moisturizing cream that I made.

I am noticing my hair has not drawn up as much as it would normally have. Now my hair is starting to curl up and spiral. It is well moisturized but greasy. This would be great for hair that quickly absorbs oils and moisturizers.

I was very happy with the results, minus the greasiness. I recorded my part of the “Don’t Rush Challenge” video a week after and as you could see, my hair was still lustrous and my twist out was gourgeous.

Stay tuned all week for more product reviews!!!

Thump out!