SURVIVOR, not victim.


National Child Abuse Prevention Month

Sexual Assault Awareness Month

I got this tattoo on April 14, 2016.

I mentioned this briefly in my post “Escape.Dance.Release.Heal,” but I am a survivor of both. In honor of this month, I would like to share how I healed, and continue to heal, in hopes that it will reach someone one that needs it. Please note that everyone’s healing process is different in the sense that there is no time frame on healing, and there is no guide book that lays out which healing methods will work best for you. Healing is a process and you will not heal overnight, but beginning takes you one step closer. 

“Keep planting and sowing, living and knowing that beautiful things take time (and that is okay) -Morgan Harper Nicholas  

What works for me may not work for you, and that is okay, but it may spark an idea. This part of my past is a part of my story, but I WILL NOT let it define me. This is how I healed…

  1. Danced…I bet that comes as no surprise lol 
  2. Showed up to my therapy sessions – I know that I was hesitant to take this step at first but I 100% recommend it now! I strongly believe that there should be mental health check-ups, as we do with physicals. It may seem weird to share your most painful experiences with a complete stranger, but in a way that is the beauty of it. 
  3. Supported others – I try to find a meaning or reason for the unfortunate circumstances of my life and aside from it being me rather than my siblings (which I am very grateful for), I believe that I am meant to be that light, that hope, and that support for others. 
  4. Forgave myself for blaming myself. If you do not take anything else from this post, take this: You can not blame yourself for the actions of others!! You share no fault in this. 
  5. Was honest about my triggers with my partner – I am very thankful for him and our healthy relationship. I am very blessed. 
  6. Wrote….a lot – There are many workbooks for sexual abuse survivors on Amazon. I had one that really worked for me, but unfortunately, I do not have it handy to include the title. I will add it in the comments once the stay-at-home order is lifted and I am back in Florida. 
  7. Felt those emotions that I was suppressing and I definitely had a lot of them. Then, i released them in a positive way ~ dance ~
  8. Found a healthy support system – if you feel like you don’t have one, you have at least one person, and that’s me. 
  9. Ignored all negative comments – unfortunately, there are negative people in this world that may try to bring you down or discredit you. Don’t let them discourage you or put negative thoughts about yourself in your mind. You are strong. You are brave. You are loved. Your light will shine past their bullsh**.
  10. Began to love myself in my entirety. 

Please remember that you’re not a victim, you’re a SURVIVOR, and if you need a support system, or just a listening ear, I am here. 💙

If you ever want to connect, but do not feel comfortable commenting below, you can always email me at

LIVE.LAUGH.LOVE yourself first. Until next time. Mwauh 💋 -Alex

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